"Loving Your Baby... is a powerful firsthand account of having a baby die written not only from Shari's experience, but from her heart! The many practical examples of "what to do" will be useful not only for parents but for the health care professionals involved in the baby's life and death. In fact, the wisdom contained in these pages could be of use to families dealing with the death of an older child. We look forward to being able to share this book with the families whom we provide care."
Lori Ives-Baine, RN, BScN, MN(CPB) and Dr. Christine Newman, MD FRCP(C)
The Hospital for Sick Children, Toronto, CANADA
"Loving Your Baby... is a wonderful book. It’s exactly what it says it is: “a gentle and practical guide to parenting through miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death.” The book covers issues such as parenting your baby in whatever time you have together, gathering mementoes and keepsakes that honour your baby’s memory, planning your goodbye, and dealing with your grief in a healthy and loving way. It answers questions you might not even know you had, such as where to find a sympathetic photographer to come to the hospital (there’s an international volunteer organization of bereavement photographers). Given the subject of the book, it is not an easy read, but it is indeed gentle and full of practical details and resources for parents, family members, caregivers, and friends.
The author says she’s written the book that she wishes had been given to her. She has done that and more. Loving Your Baby... offers a remarkable guide through a part of life that many of us don’t know how to deal with. I would wish for every doctor, nurse, obstetrician, paediatrician, midwife and doula to read it."
Rachel Cooper, Nova Scotia CANADA
"All of us know someone who has lost an infant yet our society often flounders when approaching such difficult times. This wonderful book offers wise, gentle counsel from someone who knows the experience first hand. Shari manages to capture all the steps and variations of this painful and often overwhelming journey using language that is caring as well as matter-of-fact. Useful for bereaved families as well as anyone they encounter, the book offers excellent advice for navigating through the first news to the years following. This book is long overdue and most welcome."
Ellen Brian, Whitehorse, Yukon CANADA
“My husband and I were given the book Loving Your Baby… to help us during our baby boy, Oliver's, sickness and death. The book takes a compassionate and honest, yet gentle, look at the life and death of a child that I did not find in other literature. It supported me in recognizing the signs when Oliver was nearing the end of his short life. Loving Your Baby… gave us suggestions for how to honour and remember our son through special keepsakes and creating memories. Shari beautifully writes of her own journey with her son, Josiah, and I felt an instant bereaved mother-to-mother connection to her. Shari's book helped me say goodbye to our baby, but also gave me hope that I will survive so that I can honour Oliver's memory.”
Nicole, Mom to Oliver and Emily, Toronto CANADA
"From the moment I picked up Loving Your Baby..., I could feel the tears and sorrow of a bereaved family. Living in a culture that does not discuss death, grief, and loss, Shari opens the door to acknowledgement. Sometimes, the simple knowing that you are not alone is enough to keep your sanity during a time of sadness. In addition to sharing her own story, this short book is filled with practical information and resources to support you and your family. Whether you are a bereaved parent, grandparent, sibling, or friend, this book can be part of your healing journey."
Dr. Roxana Roshon, Guelph, Ontario CANADA
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